You just had a fight with your finance and they have told you the relationship is over because you keep arguing about the same things. Your spouse has had an affair with a coworker, and when confronted, they fire back that you checked out years ago and they were tired of feeling alone. Perhaps you did something that you regret, and as a result, your best friend has vowed to never speak to you again. Maybe your children are out of control and you can not seem to communicate with them. You see books on relationships on the store shelves and wonder if they can help.
For some people, the answer is yes. There are some great books on relationships out there that can really make a difference in even the most troubled and turbulent relationships. Not all are worth a try though, and that is when you have to be choosy about what you buy and who you choose to trust. You may not know one name from another on the shelves and each problem you can encounter with a relationship needs a different approach. This is where your computer and your search skills are going to come into play.
The first thing you want to do is to look around at your local bookstore or online for books on relationships that are related to your problem. There are books for all types of different problems both big and small. Some are even there to help you build your relationship up so that you can avoid any problems in the future. Take note of a few that you think are going to be helpful, but do not buy right away. You want to find out more about the ones that have really helped people and those that many say may not be worth the paper on which they are printed. You want to do research before you buy.
If you look online, you may see that one book has healed many relationships. That might be a good book to try. You may also find that though many bought another book by a different author, they were all disappointed with the results. Online book reviews for books on relationships are a gold mine of information. You don't want to look at reviews that seem to be rave reviews up and down the page. Those could be planted. Instead, look for ones that ring true as if a real person with real problems found hope and peace through a book meant to help heal troubled relationships.
Books on relationships and healing problems are only as good as the people using them. If you are trying to save your marriage, you have to trust in what the book says without second guessing what you are told to do. That can be hard. This is when trust in the author comes into play. It is not always necessary to have both partners involved right away, but at some point both have to participate in the process. Not all relationships can be saved, but some that would have normally been written off before can easily come back from the dead and be better than they ever were. It happens all the time, you just have to find the right help and put your heart into it.