Have you ever had a relationship with someone that was so complicated it drove you crazy? You wanted to be with them and around them more than anything, but they made you feel bad or even nuts when interacting. These love hate relationships are often filled with very passionate feelings, but not all of those are good. Everyone is bound to have this type of relationship with someone at some point, and in any type of relationship. It does not have to be a romantic interest that drives you to wonder what you were thinking. It could be a friendship too, but not for the same reasons.
Most of the love hate relationships that you encounter are going to be of the romantic variety. It is hard to understand how someone can tick you off and make you feel like you would love to smack them, but then again make you feel as if you could run away with them and never look back. Not only is this confusing, it makes knowing if the relationship would be good idea or not hard to consider. Sometimes, it can be as simple as figuring out why they make you so angry. Other times, it is more about nature than anything else.
Part of the reason we fall in love has nothing to do with sharing laughs, values, and interests. That leads to long term love, but at first, it is all about animal attraction. Our bodies are designed to respond to male or female pheromones that indicate someone is a good match for mating. It sounds primitive, but that is what it is. When you see someone and you find them attractive, that leads you go get to know them. Once you get a whiff of them, your body decides if they are a good genetic match. If so, you are going to feel overwhelmingly attracted to them.
This type of reaction helped humans reproduce as needed. Without this strong attraction, the human race may have faltered. Though we are more choosy, and reproduction is a choice rather than something needed to populate the earth, those primitive reactions are still as strong as ever. We hook up with someone for this reason, but we stay with them because we fall into real love. Most love hate relationships happen because of this type of natural response. We are wildly attracted at first, but we find out we really don't like the person. When the chemical attraction is strong, it can be hard to turn it off.
If you find you go in and out of love hate relationships, try to put some distance between you and the person in question. If you are not experiencing the hormonal pull towards that person for a while, you can then safely weight the personality of the person in question. Do you like who they are? Do you share the same dreams? Are they anything like you initially thought they would be? You can really figure out why you are reacting so strongly to them and what makes you feel as if you are not sure if the relationship is a good idea or not. Some love hate relationships turn out to be all love, but the ones that don't often end quite painfully.
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